God-worshiper, wife, mother, grandmother, author, lover of all things domestic, gardener, photographer, nature lover--no telling what you'll get on any given day, but thank you for joining me on the second half of this journey called life.
What's next?
What you do screams so loud I can't hear what you say.
George Bernard Shaw
Life isn't about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.
Henry David Thoreau
What lies before us and what lies behind us are small matters compared to what lies within us. And when you bring what is within out into the world, miracles happen.
Lord Chesterfield
Whatever is worth doing at all is worth doing well.
St. Francis of Assisi
Start by doing what's necessary; then do what's possible, and suddenly you are doing the impossible.
Rick Amiot
I've got a plan. I don't know what it is yet.
Tsh Oxenreider
Be free from the burden of meeting expectations that were never meant for you.
Franz Kafka
Anyone who keeps the ability to see beauty never grows old.
Billy Graham
My home is in heaven. I'm just traveling through this world.
C.S. Lewis
Hardships often prepare ordinary people for an extraordinary destiny.
Deepak Chopra
Difficult situations fall into three categories: things we can fix, things we have to put up with and things we should walk away from.
Booker T. Washington
If you want to lift yourself up, lift up someone else.
Sir Winston Churchill
If you're going through hell, keep going.
Zig Ziglar
Two things define you. Your patience when you have nothing, and your attitude when you have everything.
Eleanor Roosevelt
Do what you feel in your heart to be right for you'll be criticized anyway.
Rose Kennedy
It has been said, 'time heals all wounds.' I do not agree. The wounds remain. In time, the mind, protecting its sanity, covers them with scar tissue and the pain lessens. But it is never gone.
Pablo Picasso
The meaning of life is to find your gift. The purpose of life is to give it away.
Benjamin Franklin
Any fool can criticize, condemn and complain and most fools do.
Oswald Chambers
Our stamina is sapped, not so much by external troubles surrounding us, but by problems in our thinking.
Winston Churchill
Courage is what it takes to stand up and speak; courage is also what it takes to sit down and listen.
Henry David Thoreau
Go confidently in the direction of your dreams; live the life you have imagined.
Ernest Hemingway
There is nothing to writing. All you do is sit down at a typewriter and bleed.
Unknown
Little girls with dreams become women with vision.
William Blake
A truth that's told with bad intent beats all the lies you can invent.
Ernest Hemingway
There is nothing noble in being superior to your fellow man; true nobility is being superior to your former self.
Jack Canfield
Everything you want is on the other side of fear.
F. Scott Fitzgerald
Writers aren't exactly people...they're a whole bunch of people trying to be one person.
Ralph Waldo Emerson
Don't be pushed by your problems. Be led by your dreams.
Charles Bukowski
What matters most is how well you walk through the fire.
William Wordsworth
Fill your paper with the breathings of your heart.
A.A. Milne
The third-rate mind is only happy when it is thinking with the majority. The second-rate mind is only happy when it is thinking with the minority. The first-rate mind is only happy when it is thinking.
Bishop T.D. Jakes
Be watchful. A clear sign of someone's character is how they treat people they don't need.
Sir Winston Churchill
You have enemies? Good. That means you've stood for something sometime in your life.
Dorothy Nevill
The real art of conversation is not only to say the right thing at the right place but to leave unsaid the wrong thing at the tempting moment.
Helen Keller
"Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, ambition inspired, and success achieved."
Frederick Douglass
"It is easier to build strong children than to repair broken men."
Ralph Waldo Emerson
Write it on your heart that every day is the best day of the year.
George Eliot
"It's never too late to be who you might have been."
Jean-Paul Sartre
"Freedom is what you do with what's been done to you."
Anne Frank
I can shake off everything as I write; my sorrows disappear, my courage is reborn.
Maya Angelou
"The ache for home lives in all of us. The safe place where we can go as we are and not be questioned."
Benjamin Franklin
"Write something worth reading or do things worth writing."
C.S. Lewis
You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream.
Sir Edwin Arnold
"No power on earth compares to a mother's tender prayers."
Mahalia Jackson
"It is easy to be independent when you've got money. But to be independent when you haven't got a thing--that's the Lord's test."
Maya Angelou
"When people tell you who they are -- believe them."
Charles Dickens
"Do all the good you can, and make as little fuss about it as possible."
Aristotle
"There is only one way to avoid criticism: do nothing, say nothing, and be nothing."
Aristotle
"We are what we repeatedly do; excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit."
T.D. Jakes
"A steady diet of negativity will inevitably leave you stressed to the limit. Don’t give up what you have, by focusing on what you lost!"
Maya Angelou
"There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside of you."
Janice Daugharty
"The strongest take to the hardroad with nothing more to lose, nothing more to fear, because they’ve been broken and they’ve survived. Life begins from there."
Robert Louis Stevenson
Life is not a matter of holding good cards, but of playing a poor hand well.
Carl Jung
"I am not what has happened to me. I am what I choose to become."
A. W. Tozer
"A pharisee is hard on others and easy on himself, but a spiritual man is easy on others and hard on himself."
T.D. Jakes
"If the hatred of men can kill your dream, then the dream was not born of God. A dreamer must have a tenacious commitment to his dream."
Source Unknown
Unsolicited advice is criticism.
Leonardo da Vinci
"Nothing strengthens authority so much as silence."
Abraham Lincoln
"A man is about as happy as he makes up his mind to be."
Dorothy Gurney
The kiss of the sun for pardon The song of the birds for mirth One is nearer to God's heart in the garden Than anywhere else on earth
St. Francis of Assisi
Lord, make me an instrument of your peace. Where there is hatred, let me sow love. Where there is injury, pardon, Where there is doubt, faith, Where there is despair, hope, Where there is darkness, light,and where there is sadness, joy. O Divine Master, grant that I may not so much seek to be consoled, as to console; To be understood, as to understand; To be loved, as to love; For it is in giving that we receive-- It is in pardoning that we are pardoned; And it is in dying that we are born to eternal life.
a prayer of Blessed Teresa to Jesus
Let nothing trouble you Let nothing frighten you Everything passes God never changes Patience obtains all Whoever has God Wants for nothing God alone is enough
Woman's Home Companion, December 1935
"Year by year the complexities of this spinning world grow more bewildering and so each year we need all the more to seek peace and comfort in the joyful simplicities."
Lord Chesterfield
"Take care of the minutes, for the hours will take care of themselves."
Sarah ban Breathnach
"Please let me never forget how rich my wonderful life is right at this moment. Please let me never forget that all I have is all I need. Please never let me forget to give thanks."
William Morris
"Have nothing in your houses that you do not know to be useful or believe to be beautiful."
Samuel Johnson
"To be happy at home is the ultimate result of all ambition."
Alexandra Stoddard
"The optimistic thoughts in our minds and the love in our hearts will give off an ambience that becomes the mood of the house."
in "Feeling At Home"
Gunilla Norris
"Guard me against the arrogance of privilege, against the indulgence of feeling that I don't have enough, and the poverty of spirit that refuses to acknowledge what is daily given me."
Eleanor Roosevelt
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."
Pastor S. Lee Barnes
"...more people are "killed" by backbiting than by guns and knives.
And just like a murderer's fingerprints are on the gun, a backbiter's prints are all over the back of the person THEY hurt, providing the evidence God will use against the backbiter in His time."
John Andrew Holmes
"It is well to remember that the entire universe, with one trifling exception, is composed of others."
Della Reese
"What YOU think is your problem--not mine! I'm having trouble enough with what I'm thinking--let alone what you're thinking."
Thomas P. Amiot
"People who live their lives by other people's quotes should make their own. Get a life."
(my firstborn son, then a 20-year-old college sophomore)
He stood so long during mass on Palm Sunday he was exhausted... Not really...Mr. A usually enjoys a Sunday siesta and now that spring has sprung and the worst of the pollen has stopped in southern Georgia, we lounge the afternoon away in our vitamin D receptacles in the field in front of our home. Soon enough it will be so hot we'll retreat to the shade of ornamental pear trees. The neck pillow was his mother's, one way he holds her memory close. The binoculars were used to spot a bald eagle. The book is mine. Enough evidence could not be collected to accuse Mr. A of being a book worm. He'd rather chop firewood, rebuild a carburetor, haul away scrap metal...well, you get the picture. His belly was simply a book rest for a moment while I placed throws on my lounger. Beautiful and sunny as it was, there was a chill in the air, seems there is always one last reminder of winter shortly before Easter. We spoke of airplanes, or rather he spoke of airplanes and I listened. Military, trainers, experimental, passenger, you name it, he identifies it and never tires of the topic. My take on a passenger airliner is sardines in a dirty Coke can, but you can't beat it for efficiency. I loathe car travel, so it's a blessing to go see our children in Colorado in about the same amount of time it'd take us to drive to Atlanta. (It dawned on me I number among those on earth who knew people from the pre-air travel era.) We spoke of parenthood; he said, "There are times you act lovingly when you're not necessarily feeling it." It was a stripes-earned comment, surprised though, to hear it from him. He almost always acted lovingly. I told him he'd given me a tremendous gift with the way he conducted himself as a father. I could never fault him for the examples he lived; he was a good role model for our sons. Well, I did on occasion lob a complaint that I was more the disciplinarian than he, but all is well that ends well. He was appreciative of my compliment and I'm appreciative I can lavish words of praise on him with no worry of him becoming puffed up. From the visually euphoric vantage point of spring green...
(you can see the moon if you look closely at the center) ...we called our baby boy and his fiancee. We discussed their upcoming wedding and a wedding guest book I created online for their approval. Being able to talk on a telephone without a cord was unheard of in my childhood, but now we did just that, on speaker, so four people and the dog separated by over 1,600 miles could converse as if in the same room. Not being confined to a room rocks! When the cool afternoon got even cooler, we went inside and another conversation on another device unheard of in my childhood commenced. My older son and I were exchanging instant messages between his iPhone and my iPad. I sent him a picture of a collaborative effort with his father, homemade Chicago deep dish pizza:
...and he replied he was booking a redeye. We agreed to a call later and the call was via another communication miracle, Facetime. It was dreamed of when I was a child--portrayed in a 1960s Hanna-Barbera cartoon called The Jetsons:
And with someone's dream come true, our firstborn took us on a tour of a house he and his wife recently rented, upgrading in size from a pretty little townhouse they've occupied since their move out west last summer. A gas stove and an outlet on the island, a cook's clever design! After ten months of dues paying in a smallish galley kitchen, he and his wife will have plenty of counter space for collaborative culinary creations of their own plus room to dance. Part of me wished I lived close enough to help them move and another part of me could rest easy--as the young people say now, "I got this." They do indeed have their lives under control and their father and I can enjoy the blessing and security of knowing our children are wholly, completely self-sufficient. Plus a potential hernia might be avoided. After all this glorious sunshine and pleasant conversation with our children, we marveled over that mysterious place where time goes. We see each other looking not exactly like we did on our wedding day, but still, could we have grown children in such a lightning speed passage of time? The book of Ecclesiastes has an entire chapter devoted to the topic of time and it speaks of a gift from God, every man being able to eat and drink and enjoy the toil of his labor. My labor led to the hard work of childrearing and we were fortunate enough these duties were done with reasonable success. This blessed Sunday afternoon, we reaped the reward of sharing joy in our grown children's milestones, territory they are navigating beautifully on their own.
I'm still in the wrapping-my-mind-around-it phase of re-learning life for two as opposed to three or four and any number of add-ons which accompanied the third and fourth members of our family established in 1986. I'm getting on my own nerves with this topic as it's been nearly two years since our last nestling flew well and west. Writing it out seems to help, though. When the grill-meister, Mr. A, mentioned grilling out, I wasn't particularly enthused, but it was hard to resist his. The next thing I know I'm kneading some Tastefully Simple seasoned salt and a little water into some ground beef and Mr. A is firing up the grill. (I'm not a Tastefully Simple representative, so no self-interest in plugging their products.) After making huge circles of raw beef, trying to accommodate for shrinkage, a generous amount of coarse ground pepper and fire on both sides, voila! We had tasty, homemade burgers for lunch. Mr. A salted tomato slices and ate them with relish, no, not literal relish, but like he was Georgia born and bred. He has lived here 45 of his 61 years, so the culture really has rubbed off on him. I'm not sure of the origin of the stinker in him, whether it was his birthplace of Ohio or his childhood home of Florida, but he doesn't mind wasting a pickle thrown in the dog's direction for the sheer entertainment of watching her immediately spit it back out. She's not fond of tomatoes either, for the record. We rejoiced in the sunshine and we spoke frankly about where we are in life. We've signed all the pull-the-plug papers giving each other the legal right and blessing to do so. I said to him I never want to be simply a body he has to bathe. He said he didn't either, but life is a test and it isn't always fair. He then said he hoped we wouldn't have to take care of anyone else anytime soon. That was after I mentioned many people my age, breathing on 52, are in the beginning stage of looking after their elderly parents. My last parent was buried 12 years ago, so we were bonafide members of the sandwich generation. Mr. A said we did that well. Enough of that. He earns his relaxation daily by working hard and it's mighty gracious of him to say I earned my relaxation by what I did in the past, caring for children, an aging parent, and in time a brother. I don't feel like I'm earning mine daily, I said to him, but I did mop the floors yesterday. "That's important, too," he said in all seriousness following my less-than-serious remark. It's a beautiful thing he appreciates the upkeep of our home. I'm the first one to stand up for homemakers and what we do as a vocation, but I also have to admit it seemed to have more value when more people benefited from the labors. It's a beautiful day to get over myself and any maudlin thoughts trying to creep in. Lots of sunshine today and lots more tomorrow to stock up on before April comes in next week with afternoon thunderstorms. Lunch dishes have been dealt with, Mr. A is mowing the lush, spring green grass and the afternoon is mine to do with as I choose. My mission, this second half of life, is to choose well. The afternoon's "activities" will consist of a book or two or three, some blessed sunshine and the time for some healthy self-talk, "It's OK. Relax and enjoy. You really did earn it."
The battle waged on my spirit, my flesh the minions were sent to tempt, to assassinate The Lord to try, to purify the choice was mine all along--a lie! Until I leaned on rested in and abode with Him I was defeated
Streusel mishap, nonetheless tasty, the collision of a bunch of dark, spotty bananas on this island and a Pinterest page on the computer. Fueled by a big cup of Starbucks breakfast blend brewed at home, I was banging and clanging so in the kitchen, my bleary-eyed husband exited the bedroom and asked what kind of a car I was making. I asked him what kind he wanted me to make. He said, "The kind you'll ride in with me." By then I was in his arms, my head on his shoulder thinking we already have one of those, an old Explorer, so banana muffins will do. Before I go any further, giving credit where credit is due and acknowledging hers are much prettier, here is the recipe: http://www.inkatrinaskitchen.com/2011/02/coffee-shop-banana-streusel-muffins.html I spared my dear readers the before pictures, step-by-step of the extraordinary mess in conjuring and share the completed sweetness along with an antique store crocheted doily and gifts of McCoy pottery from a cousin. My husband and I were discussing the countertops last night, nearly 29 years old and candidates for replacement. My champagne wants range from granite to Corian, my working-man-side-of-town budget decrees laminate. I could go granite, but that means not flying to Colorado to see my children, so the decision is, as the young people say, a no-brainer. I am thinking of a couple in town who make cabinets. Around a quarter of a century ago, I was visiting them and saw their cabinets had an unexpected *patina* of scratches and gouges. She shrugged, said she didn't care, they held what they needed to hold. A bit later, she escorted me and my hungry infant to the master bedroom for some mealtime privacy and there for God-and-all-the-world-to-see was unattended to laundry. I liked that woman more that evening than when I arrived earlier. My hope is you'll appreciate my less-than-Pinterest-perfect muffins for what they are. They were tasty, otherwise I wouldn't have inflicted shared the recipe with you. Just follow her instructions more carefully than I did and crumble the streusel with your fingers. I used a fork and it clumped about as much as it would have if I used a spoon.
It is dawning on me the source of the hostilities between President Obama and Prime Minister Netanyahu. The United States is known as the super power of the world, but counterfeits exist where truth lies. The title does not belong to the United States, but to Israel. I heartily disagree with the manner our president has dealt with/is dealing with the prime minister, but it may be another step to boost Israel to its rightful place and position. Perhaps the Lord does not want the prime minister seeking help from the U.S. for what He alone intends to grant His chosen people in the homeland He gave them. "The king's heart is in the hand of the Lord, as the rivers of water: He turneth it whithersoever He will."--Proverbs 21:1 The president's heart has been turned in this realm and the foolish fall in line with him. Nonetheless, I do believe the U.S. will receive due punishment for any help denied/delayed. The prime minister will do much better to seek the Hand of the Lord. ----------- "Pray for the peace of Jerusalem. May they prosper who love you."--Psalm 122:6 New American Standard Bible